As I was shelving books in our church library one day and I came across the book, The Parent’s Toolshop by Jody Johnston Pawel, LSW. It’s actually a huge workbook filled with creative ideas on parenting. I opened the book and discovered that I had landed in the chapter dealing with behavior and discipline. The Bible is clear to point out that discipline is necessary for spiritual growth and character development. (. . . but he who loves his son (daughter) is careful to discipline him (her). Proverbs 13:24)
“He who ignores discipline comes to poverty and shame, but whoever heeds correction is honored.” (Proverbs 13:18) Below are 5 steps that might help to prevent bad behavior.

1. “Notice children being “good.” Encouragement helps children feel good about themselves and produces a sense of confidence. When your child does something “good”, make an effort to point out their behavior, their kindness to a friend or whatever good they have done. Don’t let a good deed go unnoticed. But be careful not to give false praise, be sure it is specific and justified.
2. “Show unconditional love.” Don’t make your love conditional, as if I will only love you if you do so and so. The love for your child should have no boundaries.
3. “Spend time with your child.” Prevent the negative attention-seeking behavior by spending time with your child. By doing so, you will fulfill the need for negative attention.
4. “Focus on internal approval and motivation.” Help your child to create a positive self-image by pointing out the things that your child does well. For instance, you might say, “Wow, I really like the way you made your bed this morning, and I didn’t even have to ask you.” Another suggestion might be, “Thanks for taking out the garbage you noticed that the trash cans were
   getting full and I appreciate you doing that.” Try to be specific when you provide positive feedback.
5. “Build team work.” Create a cooperative teamwork approach at home. When doing chores around the house, children need to believe that their contribution to the overall well being of the family is important. Perhaps you could ask your child for help, for instance you might say, “Hey, could you help me do the laundry, let’s sort the clothes and then you can start the washer.”

Hopefully, these suggestions will help create a more positive environment in your home. May God bless you and keep you. “I will instruct you and teach you in the way you should go; I will counsel you and watch over you.” Psalms 32:8